Getting whipped along the ass with a belt or paddle or hand (btw why do parents always say its hurt them then it hurts you, that shit hurts like a bitch, all they do is swing) is not abuse, nor is locking them in their room for a few hour (tho I consider taking my computers away as abuse >.<) or time out. Throwing them into a wall and punching the shit out of them, or not letting eat dinner, or extreme punishment can be abuse.